Don't go down the road that is not yet paved. Someone spoke these wise words to me, and It reminded me not to allow my projection of the future, dictate my actions in the present. This can be a very hard feat, as that means we have to stay in this moment, in this space and in this time. Whenever we project an outcome that hasn't happened yet, we are not in the moment and we are not in truth. Normally when I am projecting, I am in FEAR. Fear is a powerful emotion that is based in panic, not fact. Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. What does this mean? It means that we project how we think something is going to be and then we believe it already is! How unhealthy is that? Take a moment to ask yourself if you are living in this day. If I am living in this day not the future, I see that life is in session and I can make a conscious effort to be present. Trying to know the outcome of something is just a way of controlling that which you fear. It is not based in fact but, it is based in control. Don't spend your precious moments with your head somewhere else...you are missing out on your journey this way! Instead, face this moment, painful or otherwise and learn just how strong you truly are. Life is all about the moments because our journey is in these moments. Allow your path to be paved for you moment by moment, doing the footwork for tomorrow but always remembering to stay in this day. Whatever is in this moment that you may be trying to avoid, remember that it isn't going anywhere. Face it, walk right into whatever it is, and face it. Don't allow your fear to control you. Remain in this space and time. Life is in session, are you present?
WHAT YOU TRY TO CONTROL, CONTROLS YOU!
The best time for new beginnings is now! There is no better time to take flight then this moment. When you feel overwhelmed with what is ahead, I want to suggest that you remember that you only have to do this day., just this day and no other. Try to remember that if you just "pause" before you "do", you may find that you will appreciate the moment you are in, instead of the moment you are planning. BE a constant reminder that you can handle anything this life throws you, just this moment, just this hour, just this day. I have learned that my ability to live in the present moment depends only on my ability to surrender to what is. When jumping ahead into the future we are going down paths not yet paved. Doing our best to stay in this moment in time is our way of keeping fear at bay. Staying where our feet are is the best place to begin. Remember, you must love yourself fiercely and protectively. Love yourself enough to stay in this space and time. In this moment, make a choice to love yourself enough to be...simply be here in the now, in this place and this moment without trying to figure it all out. Fight for yourself, be strong for yourself ,be yourself , build yourself. Love yourself fiercely. Just for today, Just for this moment and all the moments thereafter.
YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Don't go down the road that is not yet paved. Someone spoke these wise words to me one time and It reminded me to not allow my projection of the future to dictate my actions in the present. This can be a very hard feat as that means we have to stay in this moment, in this space and in this time. Whenever we project an outcome that isn't here and hasn't happened yet, we are not in the moment and we are not in truth. Normally when I am projecting, I am in FEAR. Fear is a powerful emotion that is based in panic not fact. Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. What does this mean? It means that we project how we think something is going to be and then we believe it already is what we projected! How unhealthy is that? Take a moment to ask yourself if you are living in this day. If I am living in this day not the future, I see that life is in session and I can make a conscious effort to be present. trying to know the outcome of something is just a way of controlling that which you fear. It is not based in fact but, it is based in control. Don't spend your precious moment with your head somewhere in the future...you are missing the journey that way! Instead, face this moment, painful or otherwise and learn just how strong you truly are. Life is all about the moments because the journey is in the moments. Allow your path to be paved for you moment by moment, doing the footwork for tomorrow but always staying in this day. Whatever it is in this moment that you might be trying to avoid, remember that it isn't going anywhere so face it, walk right into whatever it is and face it. Don't allow your fear to control you. Stay in this space and time. Life is in session, are you present?
WHAT YOU TRY TO CONTROL, CONTROLS YOU!
Now is a time to renew your spirit. This very moment you have the power to change your mind. You have the ability to behave differently at this moment no matter what is happening around you. Choose who you want to be today and be just that. You set the tone for your day. Happiness is an inside job and no one is responsible for your happiness except you. Spirit can assist but you must ask and then "Be Willing" to hear the answer. Be the best person you can be today with no worries about others seeing it or not. You will like yourself much more when your actions speak of goodness, kindness and love. Today and everyday be the best version of you
Life is in session, are you present? Ask yourself this question. We tend to be everywhere but where we are. Sometimes things seem so difficult to deal with that we want to remove ourselves from feeling it. I love the saying "stay where your feet are". It is so hard to do but doable nonetheless. Staying where your feet are keeps you present in this moment and if you can be present in this moment you are living life instead of allowing it to pass by you. When you are present in this moment you can learn and grow and enjoy the short journey we have here. Just bring yourself back to this moment, this time and this space whenever you start to leave and begin to project into the future. Love yourself enough to not run from your feelings but just be present and move into them. That space is where the true healing is.
Where you go, there you are. I know I have heard this saying and probably most of you reading this have also. However, most of us continue to try to escape the uncomfortable feelings that come into our space. You cannot run from those feelings because as you know, you take you with you. I suggest that you ask spirit for relief. If you try to experience what is confusing you with truth and self honesty, you may find the answers to what needs to change in you in order to heal your discomfort. I have learned to get comfortable with the uncomfortable and this has helped me greatly. Life is messy and some of us have more mess than others. It is not that we are not worthy of more, it is that we can handle more and that more teaches us our greatest lessons. Move into that place that feels uncomfortable and find out what is waiting inside that space. For me, pain has been my greatest motivator and as I heal, it offers me the most powerful growth . The soul has true knowledge, let it feel. I can shift the pain only when I move into it and let it be what it is. This way my spirit can be free.
WHERE YOU GO......
You are enough. you are all that you should be and more. Sometimes on this difficult journey we forget that we are enough. Spirit tries to let us know in every way possible that we are loved but sometimes we feel so unlovable that we cannot take in the message. This month I want to remind you that it is spring and it is a new beginning for all of us. Today speak kind words to yourself. Forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook. We do the best with what we know. We can do no better than that. Even in our darkest moments spirit is whispering to us how worthy and enough we are. We have never been anything less then wonderful when we allow ourselves to love and be loved. Don't forget your worth this month. Focus everyday on the message above. Tell yourself that you are enough and allow natural growth that may need to occur come from that message. They created you and they know what they are doing. Don't confuse yourself with world messages. Hear spirit speaking.
YOU ARE ENOUGH
Find your soul space. We inherently go to a head space when we are afraid, overwhelmed or longing for something. We think with our brain instead of on a soul level. When you need something so much that you are willing to give up "you" for it than something is wrong. You are listening to your thinking instead of your soul. God speaks through your soul not your head. Nothing you are looking for is going to come to you through distorted thinking. Drop into your soul and ask what it is that you truly are needing and asking for. Know the right questions to ask and manifest it for your life journey. The soul can speak to you and is your strongest ally when you are confused. Whenever I feel confused I know that I have not told myself some soul truth. I have stayed in my head which created more confusion. Maybe you thought if you asked for my hearts desire, you may have to surrender to the fact that it may not be given to you and that it may not be good for you. How can what we want or need not be good for us? We don't want to surrender to that possible truth but ultimately no matter what we want to accept ,it will be spirits way. It will be the right way. It may not feel how we want it to feel at this moment but remembering that they want the best for us and that they know what that needs to look like, helps us relax and find that space where spirit dwells, the soul. If we do not drop into a soul space, our head takes over and we find no peace. Most importantly remember we are not in contact with spirit through our thinking, it is through our soul that the truth of the message AND the answer resides. Your soul is your greatest gift. Listen to it and use its wisdom wisely.
Let go, allow and accept. Have you ever felt the need to find an answer that continuously plagues your heart? I know I have and I have learned that I can share my feelings about the situation however I always must be careful to try not to force solutions. Forcing solutions never brings us the outcome that is in our best interest. Forced solutions are temporary solutions. Most times just "letting go" and "allowing" a natural outcome to occur will instantly bring peace to a situation. Letting go has never been about giving up, it is about allowing. Spirit is always for your greater good. It may not look how you want it to look but if we "allow" spirit to help, insert free will to remove that possibility, we will be more and learn more than any forced solution can offer your situation. Letting go has one truth component, acceptance. If we are able to accept that things are what they are meant to be at that moment, then we can "allow" the outcome to be in spirits hands and find a sense of peace. It is hard for all of us to realize our lack of acceptance is a forced solution process. Turn it over to spirit and see what outcome they are offering you!
LET GO, ALLOW AND ACCEPT
To know truth, I invite you to listen to your soul not your thinking . That space inside is where the truth lies. When I am in pain or when I want something so badly, my thinking becomes distorted and I tend to see things in a very different if not unhealthy way. I believe that our spiritual source has a clearer answer to our questions, the answers are much clearer then our distorted thinking. When we are confused it is because we are not living in our truth. Some how our truth has been separated from our spiritual knowing so we are in conflict with our inner self. Our source is that space outside of our thinking that speaks truth to us . It is never an easy task as clearly we want what we want, however, at the core truth of the situation or need is our true motive, our true need, our spiritual guide. If we can let go of the fear of losing, and stop creating that thought process of "I need" to have this or that, we become clearer and are able to see the truth beneath the thoughts. More often than not you will find that what you thought you needed IE: that man, that woman, that house, is not the truth. That women, that man may represent a need for love and acceptance. That house may represent a place of safety and so on. I invite you to see the truth behind the need so that you can than work on that part of your spiritual process instead of trying to be filled with the "thing" that is from the outside in .
IT IS ALWAYS AN INSIDE JOB
We who have the bravery to come here and live in the human condition can become so broken on the journey. We are spiritual beings that have forgotten how to live in our souls where our deepest knowing resides. If more could understand the importance of getting out of their heads and dropping into their soul source where truth is pure, then healing can and will begin hence, helping the world be a kinder, more healed and safe space. Mediumship and intuitive work creates a soul opening which offers a gateway to help others understand that they are guided and never alone even when at their deepest level of confusion or grief. It is in that space where their loss and confusion is understood on a different level, a level where we are all only separated by a vibration, a space where we can understand that our journey is not singular but is made up of many. What better than to bring people to a healing place of knowing their loved ones, whether here or in that other vibrational space are with us, loving us & healing us.
DROP INTO YOUR SOUL SOURCE
Don't think your way into acting right, act your way into right thinking! When we want something badly enough, we begin to distort the true value of it. We will go to any length to get it and will make poor decisions in order to achieve it. This is when we get into trouble, and it creates painful, unhealthy situations to arise. Remember that you cannot always trust your thoughts when you are attached to the outcome of something, or someone! This attachment serves the purpose of forcing solutions to have our needs met. This is not spirit reliance, but it is self-reliance. Although it is important to rely upon ourselves to do the footwork of any given situation, it is equally important to release the outcome so that spirit can do its job. If we live our journey with a spiritual "knowing" and allow this beautiful power greater than us to guide the outcome of a situation, then we can relax feeling safe and secure. It will not always look the way we think it should, but it will look exactly as it needs to for our greater good. Does anything ever turn out exactly as we want it to be? I think not; things inevitably turn out as they are meant to whether we like it or not. Spirit reliance is much healthier than brain reliance. Sometimes this is so hard to believe but for the sake of your health, go to the place of acting your way into right thinking instead of thinking your way into right acting. Try this process for a few weeks, see how you perceive things and how they unfold. The truest measure of trust is in allowing spirit to be in charge and doing the footwork for our hearts desires. It's about getting out of our own way so that good can come to us. Acting our way into right thinking is a safer bet than using our distorted thinking to TRY to get what we think we need.
LET GO OF THE REIGNS
Our feelings are what they are. Trying to control them is impossible. Feelings are not tangible, they are an emotional reaction to something inside or outside of us. However, what we feel about a particular person, place, thing or situation, does not need to dictate what we do. What we do with these feelings decides if we are healthy or not. Feelings are important in that they are our first line of defense. They are directly related to our reaction to something that causes us joy or pain. Love is a perfect example of this, love creates feelings but it is not a feeling, it is a choice. We choose to love. Hate works the same way. Loss creates feelings of grief, relief etc. Learn the difference. Understanding that because we think or feel something doesn’t make it true is an important aspect of not reacting to what we feel. The obvious goal is to feel without negative reactions. Sometimes, we want to fix something or someone and we feel badly for them. Fixing is a reaction, feeling is an emotion. Try not to confuse the two. Beware of what you do with what you feel. Reactionary responses to a circumstance or situation can be easily regretted. Pay attention to what you feel and feel what you must but always be cautious about what you then do with those feelings. Feelings are very powerful and can control us and our choices if we are not careful. Love yourself enough to think before reacting and give yourself time to decide what “action” not "reaction", you may need to take, if any. Remember, you can feel badly but still do what is right~Pausing first will always be a better choice.
YOU CANNOT HELP WHAT YOU FEEL BUT YOU CAN HELP WHAT YOU DO!!
Acceptance, Belief, Change
Acceptance that things are the way they are no matter how much we wish it were different
Having a belief that we can survive the situation no matter how painful
Always remembering that when nothing is changing, nothing changes so be willing to change whatever is necessary to be happy and filled with peace.
As we go into the holidays, it seems so strange to have people we love missing from the celebrations. It also seems odd to celebrate but I want you all to remember that your loved ones are with you during this time. I know that the relationship with them has changed in every way but if you can have the belief that they are there with you, it creates a change in you if even for a moment that reminds you of the memories and the love. The beautiful, difficult and oh so precious memories. As you share this time with family and friends, know your loved ones that have transitioned to the other side are with you. They have not forgotten you. They love you. Acknowledge the changes whether the loss is leaving this planet, distance, or breakups. These losses are all painful on different levels. Take time to cry, laugh, remember and love. Nurture yourself and open your heart to the living, the now. Be present and embrace the moments and all who love you. There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go of. Make the moments matter!!
IN YOUR NEW NORMAL, BREATHE!
GET COMFORTABLE WITH THE UNCOMFORTABLE
The Holidays and Grief
This month there may be bittersweet feelings around you and in you. Try to connect to the moments. If you have lost someone, there is going to be memories that may tap into the pain. Allow the pain, move into it and then release it so that you can be in the moments with your family and friends. Try to remember, the greatest gift to give your loved ones is "you". Remind yourself of the reality of the infinite spiritual realm and know that your love ones are with you in spirit. As we ponder the past during the holidays, we bounce from sorrow to joy. Memories flooding our consciousness even when we are not looking for it. We can drift away in that and miss the memories being created today. Remember to be understanding of the grieving person. There are truths that they wish you knew. 1. It can be hard for the grieving person to remember why Christmas should be so happy and Merry. Comfort them! 2. Tears are not a problem, they are a gift from God that helps to wash away the pain. Allow them to cry! 3. Grief can be awkward. Talk about the person who died, don't pretend they are not important or didn't exist. Memories are healing! 4. Being social can be hard. To walk alone into a room full of couples when our spouse has died or into an event filled with children when your child has died, can be a soul crushing reminder of what was lost. Allow them to leave if necessary or to take a break. Don't try to fix them! Traditions are filled with love and joy and also painful memories of loss. Be sensitive to the fact that the person they love is not there with them! Many wish they could hide in a quiet space and return on January 2nd. Allow them their feelings! Grief is a natural and necessary experience.
Our loved ones that are in spirit are all part of the memories of now. The soul is in constant growth, even in the afterlife. It is always evolving and becoming more. Your soul is always connecting to that energy creating a constant flow of love. They are never "just gone" they are flowing in your unconscious and conscious mind. the journey didn't end when they moved into the next leg of theirs. Your loved ones need you to accept their presence and to share your days with them. The holidays are upon us, try to be present and allow yourself to smile, feel joy if only for moment and grieve. May the blessings of all who love you, fall upon you and cover you in peace and light. May you find moments to reflect, moments to cry, and moments to feel joy through-out the holidays. You are loved.
YOUR LOVED ONE HAS A SPIRITUAL VINE THAT CONNECTS TO YOUR SOUL.
WITH LOVE AND BLESSINGS, SUSAN