Someone asked me "What is your religion?" I said, "All paths that lead to the light" -Anon


     INSIGHTS  2018





NOVEMBER 2018

Don't care how, I want it now! Willy Wonka

This seems to be the pervasive thought pattern of the world right now.  It doesn’t matter who is hurt or who is in the way, maybe you, instant gratification is a common reoccurrence.  The caretakers and empaths of the planet are getting a hard core lesson in how to let go.  The problem is, no one knows how to do this.  How do we let go of the need to have more to feel satiated?  Someone once told me the need to want more, is like a huge spirit size hole inside of us and the only solution is, spirit.  Yet, here we are pulling “things” into that hole and for a temporary space in time, it works.  I cannot argue with this explanation.  Outside things don’t work, but everyone is searching for that fix or that one thing that will make them feel whole.  These caretakers and empaths are running around trying to make it better for the ones they love, but when has this ever really worked?  I realized today that if they don’t want help, don’t expect it to work.  These strong feelings of hurt are that, if others can just change, they will be okay.  This is a dangerous place to be in, no one changes because we want them to.  If you are waiting for them to make it better, then I'll ask this to you, “how is that working for out?”.  The key is to change yourself and try to change your perspective of the situation.  Stop handing over your power to others.  Allowing a broken person to define you is like trying to drink out of a broken glass, just isn’t going to work. Finding your self-worth outside of taking care of others, may help.  First understand that a broken person sees things from a completely broken perspective.  An empath trying to get them to see another side of things is like pouring gas on a fire to a person who doesn’t want to heal, pure combustion.  Most want instant gratification and don’t want to deal with the healing process.  Let them be!  As empaths we need to learn to stop trying to fix others and focus on our own healing where we have some power, OVER OUR OWN LIVES.

“Instant Gratification Takes too long” Carrie Fisher    




OCTOBER 2018

Love will find a way through paths that wolves fear to prey. Lord Byron 

 Love yourself and be true to who you are.  Do not allow others to make you feel less than "the wonderful” that you are.  You cannot please everyone. Some people do not want to be pleased, they like to be unhappy with something or someone.  Allow them! You cannot change others opinion of you, but you can be sure that your opinion of “you” withstands all that's there to break you down.  I have learned that people do and say things that because of who they are not who you are.  What they say and do speaks of them, and what you say and do speaks of you.  Do not allow others to decide your worth, this will never serve you in your quest for the greater good.  I say, “It doesn’t matter what you feel, but it does matter what you do with what you feel”.  Our feelings do not need to dictate our actions, and in fact they shouldn’t.  Always know your worth, so that criticism from others does not decide your greatness. The real definition of criticism is, the practice of judging the merits and faults of others; when people criticism us, it is an affront to our souls.  Being kind in the face of this, can and will be hard.  I have learned to speak my truth in these circumstances but to always do it with kindness.  Through this, I learned to love myself even when someone didn’t love me in return.  A quote to remember, "Not everyone will love me but I will be okay anyway".  Make sure your motives are pure in any and all situations, and if the answer is yes, then move forward knowing that you are amazing and enough .  It is true that, "love will find a way through paths that wolves fear to prey". 

   Love is the answer!



SEPTEMBER 2018

UNREALISTIC expectations are premeditated resentments.

I find that when I have an expectation, it carries an instant preparation for disappointment.  I know it is the human condition to have expectations, but do not be upset if they're not met.  We cannot expect others to give us what WE are wanting just because WE think they should.  Lets take spirit for instance, when I give a reading to clients, they come in with the idea that I have control of messages their loved pass on.  They receive all the information that is given, but they have an expectation of the "one thing"  they need to hear. That message will inevitably be the ONLY thing that convinces them they are with their loved ones. Imagine how frustrating it can be for the passed loved one what you have requested from them. As Mediums, we can only give what we get and what we hear,  this can be hard for the client to understand.  Furthermore, lets say you are bringing a vase of flowers to someone you love, and they had an expectation that when you came to see them you would bring Daisies, instead you brought Sunflowers.  If the only thing that was going to make them happy were daisies, then picture the disappointment on their faces when their expectation wasn't met. The overwhelming feeling you have when trying to cheer someone up or show love with flowers and it simply was not good enough. Spirit uses a lot of energy in dropping their vibration to talk to us, and sometimes their message just isn't enough.  On the other hand, you'll want to make sure that your love one gives proper evidence, but please let go of the expectation that one memory from an entire lifetime of memories, will convince you it's them.  This will stop you from enjoying the session or receiving the full message.  In all areas of our life, know that it's okay to have an expectation but not okay to "expect" it to be met. Living on life's terms can be hard but we have no control over how things play out.  We cannot control the outcome but we can control how we perceive it.

Unrealistic expectations of people, places, things, and situations will create a belief that the outcome is in your control!



AUGUST 2018

Detaching with love


Sometimes on our journey we have to detach from people, with love.  Detaching can be very painful. It feels as if we are letting them down when we stop doing things to try to change or control another's destructive behavior.  To detach means: Unfasten, disconnect disengage, separate, remove, unhitch, unhook or free.  What all of these words really mean is, stopping the cycle of what I call "my crazy" . Our cycle that says, "If I just explain it the right way they will get it, or if I do for someone else what they should and could do for themselves, it/they will be ok".  Today I know that if someone wants fixing, they must do it for themselves.  I have NEVER been able to fix another person.   If I were able to fix them, everyone would be fixed.  Others must decide who they want to be, and even our best efforts cannot sway that. For instance with addiction, we can keep cleaning up an addicts mess for them, but they will continue to use and create a mess. Until they are really ready for change, we can only change ourselves   Detaching is the only solution to prevent ourselves from going crazy.  This doesn't mean we give up on that person, we let go and allow them to face their choices.  It will be difficult to do to someone you love, and it will hurt. When I tried fixing someone it was because their pain or behavior made ME uncomfortable. I wanted it to change because I thought I knew best, but they seem to always revert back. That person must decide to change, because no matter how hard I try, they make their own choices.  I realize today that my discomfort with someone else's journey is not an indication that I need to change them or fix them.  This is not healthy for them or me.  Perhaps they like what they are doing? Maybe they are comfortable with all their discomfort, even if I am not?  When someone really wants help they will ask, or reach out. If they are doing something different without me doing it for them, they then have the dignity to find their solutions.  Detach and allow people to learn their own lessons...even when we are in fear. Allow them the dignity of their own  choices and/or mistakes.

DETACH

(D)on't (E)ven (T)hink (A)bout (C)hanging (H)im (or Her)


JULY 2018 

All you have to do is the next right thing…

 

Sometimes life feels so overwhelming that we forget the power we carry within us.  There are times we move through this world with blinders on and wonder why we didn’t see.  Life is full of challenges that at times we just don’t understand.  When life lacks clarity, look within.  You have all you need inside of you to rise to any situation with empowerment and calm.  When things seem confusing, pause and do the next right thing”.  That is all that is required in this moment and any moment after this.  The next right thing doesn’t always seem clear yet if we just trust our inner voice, it takes us to a place of personal understanding of what that needs to look like.  Maybe it is to take a deep breath , maybe it is to voice your truth to someone or maybe it is just going to a place of personal acceptance.  Whatever you choose to do, stay in this time and this space.  Doing the next right thing takes you to a space of personal empowerment over the situation at hand.  Many times anxiety and fear follow when we project into a future that isn’t yet here.  Try to stay here in this moment and the day at hand.  When you are focusing on the future instead of this day, you miss out on all  that is occurring in the here and now. 


LIFE IS IN SESSION, BE PRESENT

 


JUNE 2018

You Are Enough

You are enough, you are more than enough, you don't realize just how ENOUGH you truly are!  Our journey is so difficult that at times we lose sight of our own personal empowerment.  As we walk through this life we seem to somehow forget our value.  We forget just how wonderful we are.  We begin to see our flaws instead of our assets and we tend to increase our resistance to self love.  As we are living life, and as we go through many experiences, the only thing that has changed is our perspective of ourselves.  It isn't easy to keep a positive, healthy perspective in a world where other peoples opinion of us seems to be more important and correct than our own opinion of ourselves.  Learning to value who we are, just as we are, seems to allude most people.  It is so important to keep a healthy perspective of ourselves so that we can see the true picture of our "wonderfulness".  Not the picture we tell ourselves or others tell us..but the "true picture"  The picture that says, we are precious, we are worthy and we have everything we need inside of us to be all that we desire.  Why not learn to love yourself and speak gently to yourself?  Why not be enough and be proud of all your beautiful uniqueness?  Why not be kind and tolerant with yourself when you make mistakes or even in those times when you have done or said  things that you wish you would not have done or said.  Loving ourselves is an inside job and no matter how you try to fill it from the outside in, it will only be an uphill battle.  True self love comes from the inside out.  Heal the inside and the outside will follow.  Try to say kind things to yourself for one whole day and really see just how self critical you actual are.  Make the change in yourself that you wish to see in the people you love.  Be ENOUGH just for today!  You really are worth it!

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF INTO BEING ENOUGH!



MAY 2018

Are you personalizing things that others do?  

People do what they do because of who they are, not who you are.  Another's behavior speaks volumes about them, and your behavior speaks volumes about who you are.  It would serve us all to take time, pause before you speak or react to any situation that upsets or hurts you.  Our choices when dealing with another soul whether it is: kind, thoughtful, mean, or angry, tells our soul who WE ARE.  Today in my life, being the best person I know how to be is so important.  I know I fail at times because of my own pain and hurt, as will you but we can do things different at any moment.  WE can have the choice and integrity to "fix" what we break or, heal what is broken.  It can take tremendous foresight and self discovery to see our role in situations that baffle us.  Our part can be to listen or agree to something that we know we feel differently about.  Other times our part is reacting to feelings we have about a situation, instead of taking time to breathe and reevaluate.  We are emotional beings. We react in ways that can make us forget we are souls with a journey.  A journey to be more, to be better than we are, and to love others even when they are sick and broken.  Be the best YOU today, and what transpires when you do is a sense of self-love.  I am fully aware when I react to things that harm me, I have already lost my serenity.  Our feelings are no ones but ours to own and accept.  This concept is so easy to say and so hard to implement into our reactions and actions towards others.  Remember everything YOU do is part of YOUR souls journey.  Learning from our mistakes and doing it better next time is the goal.  We need to value ourselves enough to not own another's "crazy". Doing this has components that are simple but not so easy.  

  1. Not owning another's persons feelings
  2. Staying inside our own space
  3. NOT taking on the belief that they said it, so it makes it true
  4. Not personalizing someone else's pain and anger, or behavior and choices
  5. Knowing who you are in relation to that person and behaving accordingly
  6. Self-love
  7. knowing what's theirs is theirs and what's mine is mine
  8. Lastly, don't react, don't react, don't react
Remember:
YOU ARE A DIVINE AND BEAUTIFUL WORK IN PROGRESS



APRIL 2018

Peace

Be the source of peace that you are looking for.  Pema Chodron says: "Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions" .  We give our power of choice away when we allow others to control our emotions.  We react instead of taking positive action and once we react, we are no longer in control of our actions.  Peace is an action, not a state of mind.  It creates a peaceful state of mind but in and of itself, it is an action.  The action is choosing not to act on something, or react to something.  Sometimes the action is to be silent, while others are behaving in a way that feels ugly or unkind.  Perhaps, it is the way that we continually look for others to accept us instead of learning to accept ourselves.  As you grow in peace, you begin to understand that you are the only one that gets to decide who you want to be today!  You are the only one that gets to decide who you are, PERIOD!  When we allow others to tell us who we are, we are allowing them to decide our value.  Guard yourself from getting caught up in another's thoughts and emotions.  It isn't easy to do, but it is doable.  Work more at being a clearer channel for yourself.  Know that what you feel, think, say, and do is yours to own and if you don't like it, it's your's to change.  This empowers you to be in control of who YOU want to be today!  It will always be~ two steps forward and one step backward, but you are moving forward nonetheless.  You are enough, if you say you are enough!  It is wonderful to be liked and loved, we all need it. Search out the right people who can accept and love you for who you are, warts and all!  Also, be open to hearing what others see for insight, but not to be the decision factor about who you are as a person.  Remembering that all of us come from our own levels of brokenness.  Learn to trust your inner voice.  If you can do this, you will find a safety, a peace of mind that may have eluded you for so long.  Knowing who we are is the first step to inner peace.  Get to know yourself so that people, places, and situations don't control your emotions.  Through this, you can find the good from within and build on it!  You are worth it!

YOUR LIFE BECOMES A MASTERPIECE WHEN YOU LEARN TO MASTER PEACE!



MARCH 2018

Grace

Grace.  I try to always carry a grace card in my pocket for others who are broken or grieving.  Sometimes when we grieve we are inconsolable and in constant turmoil so it is hard to react to people in a way that is healthy.  We tend to want to personalize the events that occur between ourselves and others.  We feel let down, treated in a manner that says we don't matter.  Grief and pain is so powerful that it can decide all of  our feelings and reactions in any given moment.  It tells us that we are not enough, we are not loved and we are alone.  when in grief, refer to GRACE.  The grace of spirit is the most beautiful and powerful thing we will ever encounter, but it is also the most difficult concept for us to wrap our minds around. Grace pushes back against our understanding of what is fair and what people deserve. But the message of grace is one that the entire world needs to hear. Grace is love that seeks you out when you have nothing to give in return. Grace is love coming at you that has nothing to do with you. Grace is being loved when you are unlovable…. The cliché definition of grace is “unconditional love.” It is a true cliché, for it is a good description of the meaning..

Let’s go a little further, though. Grace is a love that has nothing to do with you, the one offering it. It has everything to do with the one who is receiving it. Grace is irrational in the sense that it has nothing to do with weights and measures. It has nothing to do with my intrinsic qualities or so-called “gifts”.  It reflects a decision on the part of the giver, the one who loves, in relation to the receiver, the one who is loved, that negates any qualifications the receiver may personally hold…. Grace is one-way love . Remember, give a grace card to those who are grieving,  As grief sometimes dictates feelings and actions that make no sense to another observing it.  Grief is an undefined loss that no one understands but the person feeling it.  Carry a grace card in your pocket for those that are not healthy in mind, body or spirit, those who are lost or grieving…How you respond to others brokenness speaks volumes about you and very little about them.

Let’s go a little further, though. Grace is a love that has nothing to do with you, the one offering it. It has everything to do with the one who is receiving it. Grace is irrational in the sense that it has nothing to do with weights and measures. It has nothing to do with my intrinsic qualities or so-called “gifts”.  It reflects a decision on the part of the giver, the one who loves, in relation to the receiver, the one who is loved, that negates any qualifications the receiver may personally hold…. Grace is one-way love . Remember, give a grace card to those who are grieving,  As grief sometimes dictates feelings and actions that make no sense to another observing it.  Grief is an undefined loss that no one understands but the person feeling it.  Carry a grace card in your pocket for those that are not healthy in mind, body or spirit, those who are lost or grieving…How you respond to others brokenness speaks volumes about you and very little about them.


                                                                CARRY A GRACE CARD!

 


FEBRUARY 2018

Unpaved Roads

Don't go down the road that is not yet paved.  Someone spoke these wise words to me one time and It reminded me to not allow my projection of the future to dictate my actions in the present.  This can be a very hard feat as that means we have to stay in this moment, in this space and in this time.  Whenever we project an outcome that isn't here and hasn't happened yet, we are not in the moment and we are not in truth.  Normally when I am projecting, I am in FEAR.  Fear is a powerful emotion that is based in panic not fact.  Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real.  What does this mean?  It means that we project how we think something is going to be and then we believe it already is what we projected!  How unhealthy is that?  Take a moment to ask yourself if you are living in this day.  If I am living in this day not the future, I see that life is in session and I can make a conscious effort to be present.  trying to know the outcome of something is just a way of controlling that which you fear.  It is not based in fact but, it is based in control.  Don't spend your precious moment with your head somewhere in the future...you are missing the journey that way!  Instead, face this moment, painful or otherwise and learn just how strong you truly are. Life is all about the moments because the journey is in the moments.  Allow your path to be paved for you moment by moment, doing the footwork for tomorrow but always staying in this day.  Whatever it is in this moment that you might be trying to avoid, remember that it isn't going anywhere so face it, walk right into whatever it is and face it.  Don't allow your fear to control you. Stay in this space and time.  Life is in session, are you present? 

WHAT YOU TRY TO CONTROL, CONTROLS YOU!


  JANUARY 2018  

NOW

The best time for new beginnings is now!  There is no better time to take flight then this moment.  When you feel overwhelmed with what is ahead, I want to suggest that you remember that you only have to do this day., just this day and no other.  Try to remember that if you just "pause" before you "do", you may find that you will appreciate the moment you are in, instead of the moment you are planning.  BE a constant reminder that you can handle anything this life throws you, just this moment, just this hour, just this day.  I have learned that my ability to live in the present moment depends only on my ability to surrender to what is.  When jumping ahead into the future we are going down paths not yet paved.  Doing our best to stay in this moment in time is our way of keeping fear at bay.  Staying where our feet are is the best place to begin.   Remember, you must love yourself fiercely and protectively.  Love yourself enough to stay in this space and time.  In this moment, make a choice to love yourself enough to be...simply be here in the now, in this place and this moment without trying to figure it all out.  Fight for yourself, be strong for yourself ,be yourself , build yourself.  Love yourself fiercely.  Just for today, Just for this moment and all the moments thereafter.

YOU ARE WORTH IT!








INSIGHTS 2017

JANUARY 2017

Now is a time to renew your spirit.  This very moment you have the power to change your mind.  You have the ability to behave differently at this moment no matter what is happening around you.  Choose who you want to be today and be just that.  You set the tone for your day.  Happiness is an inside job and no one is responsible for your happiness except you.  Spirit can assist but you must ask and then "Be Willing" to hear the answer.  Be the best person you can be today with no worries about others seeing it or not.  You will like yourself much more when your actions speak of goodness, kindness and love.  Today and everyday be the best version of you

BE WILLING



FEBRUARY

Life is in session, are you present?  Ask yourself this question.  We tend to be everywhere but where we are.  Sometimes things seem so difficult to deal with that we want to remove ourselves from feeling it.  I love the saying "stay where your feet are".  It is so hard to do but doable nonetheless.  Staying where your feet are keeps you present in this moment and if you can be present in this moment you are living life instead of allowing it to pass by you.  When you are present in this moment you can learn and grow and enjoy the short journey we have here.  Just bring yourself back to this moment, this time and this space whenever you start to leave and begin to project into the future.   Love yourself enough to not run from your feelings but just be present and move into them.  That space is where the true healing is.  

BE PRESENT



MARCH

Where you go, there you are.  I know I have heard this saying and probably most of you reading this have also.  However, most of us continue to try to escape the uncomfortable feelings that come into our space.  You cannot run from those feelings because as you know, you take you with you.  I suggest that you ask spirit for relief.  If you try to experience what is confusing you with truth and self honesty, you may find the answers to what needs to change in you in order to heal your discomfort.  I have learned to get comfortable with the uncomfortable and this has helped me greatly.  Life is messy and some of us have more mess than others.  It is not that we are not worthy of more, it is that we can handle more and that more teaches us our greatest lessons.  Move into that place that feels uncomfortable and find out what is waiting inside that space.  For me, pain has been my greatest motivator and as I heal, it offers me the most powerful growth . The soul has true knowledge, let it feel.  I can shift the pain only when I move into it and let it be what it is.  This way my spirit can be free.  

WHERE YOU GO......



APRIL

You are enough.  you are all that you should be and more.  Sometimes on this difficult journey we forget that we are enough.  Spirit tries to let us know in every way possible that we are loved but sometimes we feel so unlovable that we cannot take in the message.  This month I want to remind you that it is spring and it is a new beginning for all of us.  Today speak kind words to yourself.  Forgive yourself and let yourself off the hook.  We do the best with what we know.  We can do no better than that.  Even in our darkest moments spirit is whispering to us how worthy and enough we are.  We have never been anything less then wonderful when we allow ourselves to love and be loved.  Don't forget your worth this month.  Focus everyday on the message above.  Tell yourself that you are enough and allow natural growth that may need to occur come from that message.  They created you and they know what they are doing.  Don't confuse yourself with world messages.  Hear spirit speaking.

YOU ARE ENOUGH



MAY

Find your soul space.  We inherently go to a head space when we are afraid, overwhelmed or longing for something.  We think with our brain instead of on a soul level.  When you need something so much that you are willing to give up "you" for it than something is wrong.  You are listening to your thinking instead of your soul.  God speaks through your soul not your head.  Nothing you are looking for is going to come to you through distorted thinking.  Drop into your soul and ask what it is that you truly are needing and asking for.  Know the right questions to ask and manifest it for your life journey.  The soul can speak to you and is your strongest ally when you are confused.  Whenever I feel confused I know that I have not told myself some soul truth. I have stayed in my head which created more confusion.  Maybe you thought if you asked for my hearts desire, you may have to surrender to the fact that it may not be given to you and that it may not be good for you.  How can what we want or need not be good for us?  We don't want to surrender to that possible truth but ultimately no matter what we want to accept ,it will be spirits way.  It will be the right way.  It may not feel how we want it to feel at this moment but remembering that they want the best for us and that they know what that needs to look like, helps us relax and find that space where spirit dwells, the soul.  If we do not drop into a soul space, our head takes over and we find no peace.  Most importantly remember we are not in contact with spirit through our thinking, it is through our soul that the truth of the message AND the answer resides.  Your soul is your greatest gift.  Listen to it and use its wisdom wisely.  

SOUL SPACE



JUNE

Let go, allow and accept.  Have you ever felt the need to find an answer that continuously plagues your heart?  I know I have and I have learned that I can share my feelings about the situation however I always must be careful to try not to force solutions.  Forcing solutions never brings us the outcome that is in our best interest. Forced solutions are temporary solutions.  Most times just "letting go" and "allowing" a natural outcome to occur will instantly bring peace to a situation.  Letting go has never been about giving up, it is about allowing. Spirit is always for your greater good.  It may not look how you want it to look but if we "allow" spirit to help, insert free will to remove that possibility, we will be more and learn more than any forced solution can offer your situation.  Letting go has one truth component, acceptance.  If we are able to accept that things are what they are meant to be at that moment, then we can "allow" the outcome to be in spirits hands  and find a sense of peace.  It is hard for all of us to realize our lack of acceptance is a forced solution process.  Turn it over to spirit and see what outcome they are offering you!

LET GO, ALLOW AND ACCEPT



JULY

To know truth, I invite you to listen to your soul not your thinking .  That space inside is where the truth lies.  When I am in pain or when I want something so badly, my thinking becomes distorted and I tend to see things in a very different if not unhealthy way.  I believe that our spiritual source has a clearer answer to our questions, the answers are much clearer then our distorted thinking.  When we are confused it is because we are not living in our truth.  Some how our truth has been separated from our spiritual knowing so we are in conflict with our inner self.  Our source is that space outside of our thinking that speaks truth to us .  It is never an easy task as clearly we want what we want, however, at the core truth of the situation or need is our true motive, our true need, our spiritual guide.  If we can let go of the fear of losing, and stop creating that thought process of "I need" to have this or that, we become clearer and are able to see the truth beneath the thoughts.  More often than not you will find that what you thought you needed IE: that man, that woman, that house, is not the truth. That women, that man may represent a need for love and acceptance.  That house may represent a place of safety and so on.  I invite you to see the truth behind the need so that you can than work on that part of your spiritual process instead of trying to be filled with the "thing" that is from the outside in . 

IT IS ALWAYS AN INSIDE JOB 



AUGUST

We who have the bravery to come here and live in the human condition can become so broken on the journey.  We are spiritual beings that have forgotten how to live in our souls where our deepest knowing resides.  If more could understand the importance of getting out of their heads and dropping into their soul source where truth is pure, then healing can and will begin hence, helping the world be a kinder, more healed and safe space.   Mediumship and intuitive work creates a soul opening which offers a gateway to help others understand that they are guided and never alone even when at their deepest level of confusion or grief.  It is in that space where their loss and confusion is understood on a different level, a level where we are all only separated by a vibration, a space where we can understand that our journey is not singular but is made up of many.  What better than to bring people to a healing place of knowing their loved ones,  whether here or in that other vibrational space are with us, loving us & healing us.

  

DROP INTO YOUR SOUL SOURCE




SEPTEMBER


Don't think your way into acting right, act your way into right thinking!  When we want something badly enough, we begin to distort the true value of it.  We will go to any length to get it and will make poor decisions in order to achieve it.  This is when we get into trouble, and it creates painful, unhealthy situations to arise.  Remember that you cannot always trust your thoughts when you are attached to the outcome of something, or someone! This attachment serves the purpose of forcing solutions to have our needs met.  This is not spirit reliance, but it is self-reliance.   Although it is important to rely upon ourselves to do the footwork of any given situation, it is equally important to release the outcome so that spirit can do its job.  If we live our journey with a spiritual "knowing" and allow this beautiful power greater than us to guide the outcome of a situation, then we can relax feeling safe and secure.  It will not always look the way we think it should, but it will look exactly as it needs to for our greater good.  Does anything ever turn out exactly as we want it to be?  I think not; things inevitably turn out as they are meant to whether we like it or not.  Spirit reliance is much healthier than brain reliance. Sometimes this is so hard to believe but for the sake of your health, go to the place of acting your way into right thinking instead of thinking your way into right acting.  Try this process for a few weeks, see how you perceive things and how they unfold.  The truest measure of trust is in allowing spirit to be in charge and doing the footwork for our hearts desires.  It's about getting out of our own way so that good can come to us.  Acting our way into right thinking is a safer bet than using our distorted thinking to TRY to get what we think we need.  


LET GO OF THE REIGNS




OCTOBER

 

Our feelings are what they are.  Trying to control them is impossible.  Feelings are not tangible, they are an emotional reaction to something inside or outside of us. However, what we feel about a particular person, place, thing or situation, does not need to dictate what we do.  What we do with these feelings decides if we are healthy or not.  Feelings are important in that they are our first line of defense.  They are directly related to our reaction to something that causes us joy or pain.  Love is a perfect example of this, love creates feelings but it is not a feeling, it is a choice.  We choose to love.  Hate works the same way.  Loss creates feelings of grief, relief etc.  Learn the difference.  Understanding that because we think or feel something doesn’t make it true is an important aspect of not reacting to what we feel.  The obvious goal is to feel without negative reactions.  Sometimes, we want to fix something or someone and we feel badly for them.  Fixing is a reaction, feeling is an emotion.  Try not to confuse the two. Beware of what you do with what you feel.  Reactionary responses to a circumstance or situation can be easily regretted.  Pay attention to what you feel and feel what you must but always be cautious about what you then do with those feelings.  Feelings are very powerful and can control us and our choices if we are not careful.  Love yourself enough to think before reacting and give yourself time to decide what “action” not "reaction", you may need to take, if any.  Remember, you can feel badly but still do what is right~Pausing first will always be a better choice.

 

YOU CANNOT HELP WHAT YOU FEEL BUT YOU CAN HELP WHAT YOU DO!!



NOVEMBER


The ABC's

Acceptance, Belief, Change

Acceptance that things are the way they are no matter how much we wish it were different

Having a belief that we can survive the situation no matter how painful

Always remembering that when nothing is changing, nothing changes so be willing to change whatever is necessary to be happy and filled with peace.

As we go into the holidays, it seems so strange to have people we love missing from the celebrations.  It also seems odd to celebrate but I want you all to remember that your loved ones are with you during this time.  I know that the relationship with them has changed in every way but if you can have the belief that they are there with you, it creates a change in you if even for a moment that reminds you of the memories and the love.  The beautiful, difficult and oh so precious memories.  As you share this time with family and friends, know your loved ones that have transitioned to the other side are with you.  They have not forgotten you.  They love you.  Acknowledge the changes whether the loss is leaving this planet, distance, or breakups.  These losses are all painful on different levels.  Take time to cry, laugh, remember and love.  Nurture yourself and open your heart to the living, the now. Be present and embrace the moments and all who love you.  There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go of.  Make the moments matter!!  


IN YOUR NEW NORMAL, BREATHE!

GET COMFORTABLE WITH THE UNCOMFORTABLE 



DECEMBER 2017


The Holidays and Grief

This month there may be bittersweet feelings around you and in you.  Try to connect to the moments.  If you have lost someone, there is going to be memories that may tap into the pain.  Allow the pain, move into it and then release it so that you can be in the moments with your family and friends.  Try to remember, the greatest gift to give your loved ones is "you".  Remind yourself of the reality of the infinite spiritual realm and know that your love ones are with you in spirit.  As we ponder the past during the holidays, we bounce from sorrow to joy.  Memories flooding our consciousness even when we are not looking for it.  We can drift away in that and miss the memories being created today.  Remember to be understanding of the grieving person.  There are truths that they wish you knew.  1. It can be hard for the grieving person to remember why Christmas should be so happy and Merry.  Comfort them!  2. Tears are not a problem, they are a gift from God that helps to wash away the pain.  Allow them to cry!  3. Grief can be awkward.  Talk about the person who died, don't pretend they are not important or didn't exist.  Memories are healing!  4.  Being social can be hard.  To walk alone into a room full of couples when our spouse has died or into an event filled with children when your child has died, can be a soul crushing reminder of what was lost.  Allow them to leave if necessary or to take a break. Don't try to fix them!  Traditions are filled with love and joy and also painful memories of loss. Be sensitive to the fact that the person they love is not there with them!  Many wish they could hide in a quiet space and return on January 2nd.  Allow them their feelings!  Grief is a natural and necessary experience.  

 Our loved ones that are in spirit are all part of the memories of now.  The soul is in constant growth, even in the afterlife.  It is always evolving and becoming more.  Your soul is always connecting to that energy creating a constant flow of love.  They are never "just gone" they are flowing in your unconscious and conscious mind.  the journey didn't end when they moved into the next leg of theirs.  Your loved ones need you to accept their presence and to share your days with them. The holidays are upon us, try to be present and allow yourself to smile, feel joy if only for moment and grieve.  May the blessings of all who love you, fall upon you and cover you in peace and light.  May you find moments to reflect, moments to cry, and  moments to feel joy through-out the holidays.  You are loved.


YOUR LOVED ONE HAS A SPIRITUAL VINE THAT CONNECTS TO YOUR SOUL.




WITH LOVE AND BLESSINGS, SUSAN